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Young couples pay the price for marrying too soon

rú
jīn

dà
xué

yè
hòu
bù
jǐu
jìu
jié
hūn
de
dōu
shì
nián
qīng
rén
yuè
lái
yuè
duō

jìn
guǎn

shí
tā
men
zài
jīng

shàng
hái
méi
yǒu
dú



A growing number of young city dwellers are choosing to get married soon after they graduate from college, despite not being financially independent.


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jù
shàng
hǎi
shì
xú
huì
ōu
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zhèng
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qù
nián
de
tǒng

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jù
xiǎn
shì

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xué

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shēng
zhōng

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hūn


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Last year, for example, Shanghai's Xuhui District Civil Affairs Bureau saw 1,221 college graduates aged 22 to 24 tie the knot, up 50 percent on the previous year.

jù
xīn
huá
shè
bào
dào


zhōng
jié
hūn
de

dà
xué

yè
shēng

nán

yè
shēng
duō


Of those, there were more newly graduated brides than there were grooms, Xinhua said.

dàn
yǒu
guān
zhuān
jiā
rèn
wèi

méi
yǒu
jīng


chǔ
zuò
bǎo
zhàng

hūn
hòu
shēng
huó
bù
huì
xìng
fú


But without financial security, married life is no bed of roses, experts have said.

běi
jīng

duì
nián
qīng
fū
fù
líu
hào
hé
wáng

yóu
yú
rù
bù
fū
chū

zhī
néng
kào
fù
mǔ
wèi
tā
men

gōng
dà
liáng
jīng

zhī
chí


One young Beijing couple, for example, Liu Hao and Wang Ni, rely heavily on financial support from their parents, as their monthly outgoings surpass their income.


wài

líu
hào
de
mǔ
qīn
yǒu
shí
hái
dǎ
diàn
huà
jiào
tā
men

chuáng

měi
zhōu
mò
qù
gěi
tā
men
zuò
fàn



fú

dǎ
sǎo
wèi
shēng

shèn
zhì
bāng
tā
men
chǔ


xiē
zhàng
dān


In addition, Liu's mother sometimes has to call to wake them for work, and she makes regular weekend visits to take care of their cooking, washing, cleaning and even pays their bills.

shàng
hǎi
shè
huì
kē
xué
yán
jīu
yuàn
qīng
shǎo
nián
yán
jīu
suǒ
de
zhuān
jiā
sūn
bǎo
hóng
shuō


dà
xué

yè
hòu
jìu
jié
hūn
de
nián
qīng
rén
dà
duō
jiā
tíng
tiáo
jiàn

jiào
hǎo

tā
men
kě
wàng
guò
wěn
dìng
ān

de
shēng
huó



"Most of the young people who get married soon after graduating from college are from relatively well-off families, and they long for a stable and comfortable life." Sun Baohong, an expert with the Institute of Adolescents under the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences said.


rán
ér

zài

zhī
qián

tā
men

shí
hái
xū
yào
cóng
shè
huì
shàng
xué

hěn
duō
dōng

西



"However, they still have a lot to learn from society before they are ready for marriage.

zhāng
dá

2
2
4
4
suì

tiān
jīn
mǒu
dà
xué

yè
shēng

qù
nián
xià
tiān
jié
hūn

Zhang Da, 24, who got married last summer just after graduating from a college in Tianjin


fù
mǔ

jīng
wèi
wǒ
zhǔn
bèi
le

tào
fáng


suǒ

wǒ
zǎo
zǎo
de
jìu
jié
le
hūn



"I got married so early simply because my parents had already prepared an apartment for me.


dàn
wǒ
zài
dān
wèi
hái
dé
zhuāng
zuò
shì
dān
shēn

yīn
wèi
hé
wǒ
tóng
líng
de
tóng
shì
men
dōu
hái
méi
jié
hūn

rú
guǒ
tā
men
zhī
dào
wǒ

jīng
jié
hūn
le


dìng
huì
jué
dé
yǒu
diǎn
guài

ér
jū
wǒ
dān
xīn
tā
men
bǎ
wǒ
kàn
chéng
yǒu
jiā
de
rén

bù
dài
wǒ
wán
le



"But I still pretended to be single at work, as colleagues my age are all single and it is a bit weird for them to know I am married. Also, I am afraid they would leave me out of social activities if they saw me as a family man.


wǒ
hái
wú
fǎ
jiē
shòu

hūn
zhè

shēn
fèn



"I don't think I am yet ready to accept my new identity as a married man."

zhū
kě

2
2
3
3
suì

shàng
hǎi
mǒu
dà
xué

yè
shēng

qù
nián
nián

jié
hūn

Zhu Ke, 23, who got married at the end of last year after graduating from a college in Shanghai



yè
hòu
zhǎo
fèn
hǎo
gōng
zuò
de
yā

tài
dà
le

suǒ

wǒ
jué
dìng
jià
gěi

gè
ài
wǒ
de

yuàn


wǒ
fēn
yōu
jiě
nán
de
nán
rén



"I felt great pressure to find a good job after graduation so I chose to marry a man who loves me and is willing to shoulder my burden.


dàn
měi
dāng
jù
huì
shí
tīng

qián
de
tóng
xué
liáo

tā
men

yè
hòu
de
xīn
dān
shēn
shēng
huó
shí

zǒng
gǎn
jué
yǒu
diǎn
guài

wǒ
xiàn
zài
dān
xīn
de

jīng
shì
rú
hé
fù
fáng
kuǎn

shí
me
shí
hòu
kàn
wàng
fù
mǔ

shèn
zhì
shí
me
shí
hòu
yào
hái

zhè
xiē
wèn

le



"But it's still a bit weird when my former classmates talk about their new single lives at our get-togethers while I am worrying about things like how to pay for the house, when to visit his parents and even when to have a baby.


wǒ
hé
péng
yǒu
de
guān

yě
jiàn
jiàn
dàn
le

wǒ
jué
dé


cuò
guò
le
zhè
gè
nián
líng
de

hái
rén
shēng
zhōng
zuì
kuài
lè
de
shí
guāng



"The intimacy between me and my friends is vanishing, and I feel I am missing out on a period of time that should be the happiest for a girl my age."

wǔ
zé
bīn

běi
jīng
dà
xué
shè
huì
xué
shuò
shì

Wu Zebin, a master's degree holder in sociology with Peking Universty.



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hòu
hěn
kuài
jié
hūn
kě
néng
huì
dǎo
zhì
xīn

wèn


jīng

wèn

de
chū
xiàn

nián
qīng
fū
fù
duì
gōng
zuò

jiā
tíng
shēng
huó

shè
huì
zhōng
kě
néng
huì
chū
xiàn
de
kùn
nán
gū

bù
zú

cóng
cháng
yuǎn
lái
kàn


shí
chōng
dòng
kě
néng
huì
pò
huài
hūn
yīn
de
zhì
liáng



"Getting married soon after graduation can result in both psychological and economic problems. A young couple have no idea of what difficulties may confront them in their work, their family life and even from society. Their impulsive decision to marry might well undermine the marriage in the long run.

Vocabulary

outgoing

kāi
zhī

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